tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2208416000293546924.post2198685370847702705..comments2011-12-09T23:53:28.463-08:00Comments on Livin' the Quest: The Coveted ToolFernhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08833437718217444078noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2208416000293546924.post-59315244591263344682011-03-07T10:34:56.382-08:002011-03-07T10:34:56.382-08:00I think I have similar struggles getting to know p...I think I have similar struggles getting to know people, but in a completely different way. I also hate small talk, at least unless I've found some common ground.<br /><br />Beyond small talk, though, I think my M.O. is to try learn as much as I can about someone (I think I'm just a learner in general). I'm always observing, paying close attention, and asking questions to show interest. If someone's shared something recently, I tend to ask them how it's going next time I see them.<br /><br />My difficulty, though, is that I don't share enough of myself with people. So I tend to get along best only with people who make an effort to understand and get to know me. Most people aren't like that, though. They prefer to talk about *their* favorite subject...themselves! For some odd reason, I'm not that way. I'm timid when the subject turns to me. I'll admit it...I'm shy.<br /><br />Consequently, I feel like I get to know (and like) other people pretty well, but there's no reciprocity because they don't get to know me as quickly.<br /><br />Anyway, I don't know if this helps or if there's advice you can take from this, but I just thought I'd share. ;-)Andynoreply@blogger.com